Hello and welcome to Open and Ethical. I’m Jess Amen, The ENM Coach.

When my husband Will and I first opened our relationship twelve years ago, we were flying blind. We spent nearly a decade figuring out the boundaries, the triggers, and the triumphs through trial and error.

Opening up shouldn’t feel like walking through a minefield without a map.

Here is what we learned after 13 years of partnership:

It is not a quick fix: Opening a relationship isn’t a bandage for a weak foundation; it is a choice that must be made from a strong one.

It requires a different architecture: It demands deep self-reflection, the courage to hold tough, un-compromised conversations, and a resilient sense of self.

The goal is growth: Navigated with intention, this process won’t just expand your relationship—it will lead to a deeper, more resonant connection with your primary partner, and most importantly, with yourself.